Yesterday, my dear friend, Lexa passed away after a nine day battle with an aneurysm. She was an amazing person, and had her whole life ahead of her.
She was Fifteen.
What makes things like this happens?
Why are the young, vibrant, good, and loving, so often taken from us, while the abusive, murderous criminals are given long lives?
Someone once told me, "Some souls are too good, too pure for the evil of this world."
I'd have to agree.
Her death has hit me hard, has made me re-evaluate life, but I'll be honest. Right now, I'm too angry to take solace in those re-evaluations. I'm too angry to remember the good times, the positives. I'm too angry to be thankful she is no longer in pain.
I'm angry she's gone. I'm angry this happened to her, and that she'll never laugh again, or show such excitement when she's able to hold a handstand. I'm angry the doctors couldn't do anything, and that I never got to say goodbye. I'm angry her parents had to go through this, had to lose their child.
I'm angry, because it isn't fair.
Life isn't fair.
I'm angry the sympathy vultures have come out. The people who couldn't be bothered with her in life are suddenly so "sorry" she's gone. They post their 'love' for her in every public forum, and are the first to seek out grief counselors at her school. They want to make themselves feel better, look better, and get the attention they feel they deserve, for having known Lexa.
They didn't care about her, they didn't take time to get to know her. They didn't laugh with her, talk about dreams, fears, and goals. And now they can't.
Everyone grieves differently.
Some people go about life like nothing has changed, because if they don't, they'll crumble into a ball.
Some people think 'that's life' and move on.
I hold my grief tight and feel every bit of the emotion. It colors my life. It will always color my life, though each day the colors will change.
Lexa isn't the first person who touched my life and was taken too soon, and she won't be the last, because, life isn't fair.
One day, I'll be able to be thankful for the positives, not cry, but smile when I think of her. That day isn't today.
Today, I mourn for the young girl who told me I was her big sister, and that she loved me even when I was grouchy. I mourn for the girl who strutted her stuff, because she was beautiful, and I mourn for the girl who was also oblivious to the guys who watched her.
Today, I mourn for Lexa, may she rest in Paradise, where her love and beauty can shine on the world without pain, without hurt, and without judgment.
Rest in Paradise, Lexa. Until we Merry Meet Again.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Life is a fickle bitch.
One day you could have the whole world in the palm of your hand, and the next, everything could be tossed around you like broken rag dolls.
As anyone who has read this blog knows, I spent the last several months as a lifeguard. During that time, I met an amazing, vibrant, beautiful and caring, young girl. She is on Varsity Swim Team and Varsity Cheer. She came in early to swim laps, even though usually she ended up keeping me company in the early morning hours.
She is only fifteen.
She made me smile every day.
She made me laugh, and she made me shake my head.
She reminded me what it was like to be a teenager, and she would ask my advice on what to do to get away from the drama of being a teenager.
I spoke with her the other day, through Facebook. Just small talk about working out, getting in shape, and craziness of life.
That was at 4 PM.
The next evening I found out she was in the hospital. She'd suffered a brain aneurysm.
This beautiful girl, with her big smile and laughing eyes isn't visiting the pool anymore. She's fighting for her life in a hospital, attached to a ventilator.
She is strong and a fighter, and I know she won't give up, but she can use help. I'm not religious, but I believe in the power of faith. Right now, every little bit helps.
I've spent the last several days wishing I'd stopped to let her know what her visits meant to me, to make time for those plans we talked about. When I get the chance, the first thing I'll say to her is, "Thank you for caring enough to be you. Thank you for being my friend."
Life is a fickle bitch, and you never know when everything will change. Don't wait to tell your loved ones how you feel, or how thankful you are for them. Don't put off having coffee with that friend, because you can't always do it tomorrow.
Keep Fighting Lexa. You're in my thoughts. Always.
Friday, October 19, 2012
Please, please, no need for applause. ;)
After four long and exhausting months, I'm finally back and ready to get down to the busy and sometimes lonely business of writing. I've had characters and plots poking and prodding me for months now, and finally I'll have the time to do something about it.
As of today, I am no longer employed by someone other than myself. The experience of being a lifeguard, while rewarding and enlightening (not to mention physically active), just isn't what my life needs at this time. I made the decision to step away from the poolside after many days of introspection, and weighing the pros and cons.
I made a few amazing friends and a bunch of pretty cool acquaintances. There are people I'll miss deeply, and some I'll never think of again. The last few months have been an educational experience, and the changes I've made in myself and my surroundings will continue to show throughout my life.
There are many reasons I chose now to go back to my quiet and mostly orderly world. I'd made the cut and had been kept on for the winter, and yet I have chosen to leave. Some of those reasons are easy to understand, some I will share at a later time, and some reasons will never be known by anyone but me.
While lifeguarding filled a void in me I hadn't realized was there, it was never my passion the way writing is. Though I love physical fitness, and in the next couple of years will realize my dream to become a personal trainer, it isn't the focus I need right now.
I need to focus on my family. On the Marine who should be getting orders to who knows where, shortly. On the Munchkin who is experiencing new things every day. I want to be there with her, I want to be awake enough to help her with homework, to make her lunch, and to spend quality time with her more than just two days a week.
I need to focus on R.S. Emeline, Author. She's been sorely neglected, and I'm afraid to see what damage my absence has done to that part of my life.
I need to just Breathe.
Something I forget to do sometimes.
So, starting today, I'm breathing life back into myself. I'm taking the bull by the horns, and I'm jumping back into the saddle (and any other quaint phrases you can think of). It's time to let those stories out, to refresh my blog, to make new friends and network again.
It's time to get back to me.